Placement · · 2 min read

On plugging: Use cases

Plugging is not kink. It’s correction. Containment. Calibration. A system for placing him. When words don’t, and presence must.

On plugging: Use cases
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Before you plug him, you have him open. Start here.

Plugging isn’t about sex.
It’s not a novelty.
It’s not a fetish.

It’s placement.

It’s how I enter him without touching him.
It’s how he carries me without needing me near.
It’s how he resets without spiralling, collapsing, or leaking into the world.

When I say plug him, I mean: insert me.
Into his body.
Into his rhythm.
Into his nervous system.

Because the plug doesn’t represent a toy.
It represents me.

Not my shape.
Not my image.
My presence.


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