Start here

A short path into Lai Yin.

Two reads to feel the voice.
Three pieces to get oriented.
One practice to try this week.
Clear, human, biology in plain words.


Read these first

Short reads that show the voice and the frame.

Householding is not cuckolding
I don’t fuck other men. I rarely fuck my own man. I hold my house clean. This is not rebellion. This is householding.

Why this work is not performance or rebellion. It is authority. It is clean.

Where are you supposed to meet your mate? (If not at work?)
Work is where you build your life. You meet your mate where you live. Not where compliance manuals say it is safe.

Work is where life happens. Power chooses with clarity.


Get oriented

Three foundation pieces that name the biology and the practice.

Placement: A somatic method for hormonal regulation and calm
Stress floods your body with hormones that wear you down. Placement gives a practical, body-based way to bring those levels down and restore calm and balance.

The cornerstone article. How placement restores hormonal calm and embodied power in seconds.

The Biology of Placement

Plain language on oxytocin, prolactin, and dopamine — the measurable chemistry behind the method.

I hated my husband

A low-effort way to anchor your husband and rest your relationship.


Run one thing this week

A simple practice to feel the shift in your body.
Ten minutes. Clear steps.

Protocol basics

How to set intent. How to give a signal. How to stop.

How to replace instruction and negotiation with signal:

BlackPink: repetition. Lai Yin: installation.
From repetition and drills to Pavlov. BlackPink rehearse until the beat owns them. I install and reward. Hormones do the rest.

Go deeper

Members get full protocols and installable practice.

Install his pet name as signal

A 7-day protocol that installs his pet name as a signal of safety and belonging.

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New here?

If you read only one thing today, start with

Placement: A somatic method for restoring feminine power and leadership

Then try the intro protocol. You will feel the change.


Lai Yin’s work is neuroscience.
A somatic language system written in the language the body and nervous system understand.

Stop performing. Start leading.

Reclaim your space without apology.