Begin with these pieces. Read in order or go to what speaks to you first.
On marriage
“Marriage is a really bad idea unless you understand it’s not about you.”
Marriage as nervous-system governance, harbour, orbit, and reciprocity.
Read: "On marriage"
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On motherhood
"I didn’t just birth daughters. I birthed flames."
They won’t leave my house empty-handed.
Read: “The sword they carry”
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On rage
“You rage because you love people and it breaks your heart when they play small.”
Care, named clearly.
Read: "On driving"
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On exhaustion
“I went to bed without fixing anything.”
What rest feels like when control ends.
Read: "My baby turned 16 today:
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On sex
"If you want a man to love you and orbit you, you say when. You say how. You say where."
Placement, power, clean love.
Read: "Ease and Grace, Part One"
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On bond
"Some bonds don’t begin when bodies meet. They complete what placement already started."
Some bonds don’t begin when bodies meet. They complete what placement already started.
Read: "The space between us was already collapsing"
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On power
“When a woman holds power in her body, she holds it everywhere.”
The foundation of placement.
Read: "Placement"
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Read one piece. Feel what moves. Start there.
Lai Yin writes from the body. She lives in Europe with her husband and their three daughters.