Sovereignty · · 3 min read

The girls are in their room

I didn’t declare myself mother to another daughter. I became her mother the moment I stopped tracking her as “other.”

The girls are in their room
Photo by Marea Wellness / Unsplash

I used to think self-expression came from declaration. From stand.
From choosing who I was going to be.
From language. From integrity. From saying it out loud, then living into it.

I led seminars in it.
I lived inside the frame.

Declare who you are.
Stand in that declaration.
Act from it, even when it’s hard.

And I did. For years.

I called it power.
I called it freedom.
I called it being my word.

And it worked; until it didn’t.


Because one day I stood in the hallway of our house.
And I said, without thinking:

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