Some women are sent
Some women aren’t just born. They’re summoned across bloodlines and time to complete what another woman began.
Householding
Householding is the structure she holds in the home. It is the rhythm, order, mood, and standard everyone rests in. Her steadiness shapes the space. Her signal sets the tone. He stays in orbit through tethering. He stays calm and focused through maintenance. Together these keep her powerful and oxytocin rich, and the home quiet, steady, and responsive to her.
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On menstruation and the birds and the bees
Before they could walk, they already knew what blood meant. Because we never hid it. We never locked the door.
A woman can love her man and his penis without being dominated by him and his sex drive.
On a straight woman’s joy of keeping a penis of her own.
My baby turned 16 today.
Some nights you don’t have to hold it all. Some nights you’re simply held.
The bed is not the field
Sovereignty doesn’t live in the bed. It moves with the woman who holds the space.
The mother with tattoos
At Matosinhos beach I saw a mother, poised and tattooed like scripture. Her thong flashed. The flash landed in my body.
Why placement beats the bottle
He doesn’t drink because he’s weak. He drinks because he’s unplaced. Placement calms his nervous system and removes the need for escape.
A young woman’s guide to ease and grace part one.
Part one of a three-part series on placement. This post gives the lived context and the standard that makes everything work.
The girls are in their room
I didn’t declare myself mother to another daughter. I became her mother the moment I stopped tracking her as “other.”
I want him because I choose him
I don’t fuck because I should. I fuck because I want to. I don’t fuck him as a chore. I fuck when I claim what belongs to me.
The code beneath the practice
Unacknowledged pressure turns to noise. Claimed pressure returns to order.