A woman can love her man and his penis without being dominated by him and his sex drive.
Patriarchy trains women to serve men’s arousal. In mammal nature, males supply semen when the female needs it. Females allow and receive.
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The sword they carry
I didn’t just birth daughters. I birthed flames. They won’t leave my house empty-handed. They will leave carrying the sword I placed.
Women at the beach. What nature already knows.
Before I birthed my daughters, bikinis they were for covering. Today I see them wearing them to be naked in sunlight.
The mother with tattoos
At Matosinhos beach I saw a mother, poised and tattooed like scripture. Her thong flashed. She was the me I stopped becoming.
On the mermaid and the idiots who feared her
Denmark removes a mermaid statue for being “pornographic.” Lai Yin exposes how critics and priests project shame onto women’s bodies while the statue stands still.
Why placement beats the bottle
He doesn’t drink because he’s weak. He drinks because he’s unplaced. Placement calms his nervous system and removes the need for escape.
Daily rituals for aging with power
These five daily rituals restore dignity, sensuality, and presence to the process of aging. Power doesn’t fade.
Why I don’t wash him away
I don’t wipe. I don’t rush. I don’t clean. Not because I’m soft. Because I am signal. His release is not a mess. It’s a message. And I keep it until I say otherwise.
The space between us was already collapsing
Some bonds don’t begin when bodies meet. They complete what placement already started.
Who my husband is
He did not run. He did not punish. He stayed through everything. This is the man I married.
Blame is a racket. Placement is power.
I stop blaming him. I place him. The house changes when I do.
Householding is not cuckolding
I don’t fuck other men. I rarely fuck my own man. I hold my house clean. This is not rebellion. This is householding.